You never lose if you don’t quit (and other things mama said) + what NOT to do on your author journey
We’ve been here before. 🤦🏻♀️
There’s an Instagram post from December 12, 2019, where I literally stood at the same precipice I’m standing right now. The question being, “Am I going to step up? Or chicken out?”
At the time, I was deciding whether to enroll in a transformational leadership training program that would have me flying out to California almost every month, leaving behind my husband and four kids, not to mention my business and clients.
Fortunately, as I hovered on the edge of that cliff, thinking, “Do I? Don’t I?” my little sister gave me the nudge (er, shove) I needed.
It literally CHANGED MY LIFE. It changed the people I surrounded myself with. The work that I do. And how I’m able to show up for my clients, friends and family (okay, that last bit I’m still working on 😉).
Now, almost four years later to the day, I’m standing on the same precipice. Another quantum leap forward…or not.
I can hear my upper limit wailing like a banshee. (By the way, if you haven’t read or listened to Gay Hendricks’ book The Big Leap, you must! It’s about how we all have an internal glass ceiling, aka upper limit, and what happens when we have a chance to break through. Sound familiar?)
So, to help me make the decision, I’m drafting up a list of pros/cons, which actually looks a lot like it did back in 2019.
Pros:
✅ Relationships, new people and information
✅ Bringing me closer to my business and personal goals
✅ Personal development, learning a ton from the best, becoming more effective, confident and resilient
Cons:
❌ Leaving behind my family and poor hubby (aka feeling guilty and selfish)
❌ A ton of work, on top of the ton of work I already have
❌ Costs money
What would you do, in my shoes?
Here’s what I do next…
I ask myself, What’s the best thing that can happen? What’s the worst thing that can happen?
I won’t bore you with the details, but suffice to say, when I dug through the bullshit, the truth is, it’s really a win-win. For everyone.
And when it comes to your upper limit and the big leap, that’s usually the case.
You can pull back, stay stuck and play small, or you can take that one giant, glorious, fulfilling and scary AF step forward to becoming the person you’re meant to be.
I know what I'm gonna do. How about you?
Cat xo
What makes me terrible makes me great
As I shared with a writing group I was invited to last week, I’m a great book coach because I made all the mistakes 🤪
-Sending out my book to agents and publishers when it was still in first draft
-Talking all about ME and my book in my first query letters
-Not bringing in feedback partners, Beta readers, editors and mentors into my writing/editing process sooner
What did I achieve through all those mistakes?
-Wasting WAY more time than I needed to writing and editing my book
-Messing up my only chance to make a first impression
-Lessons learned that I can now share with others, so they don’t have to make the same mistakes
So what’s it going to be? Figure it all out yourself the hard way? Or take the short cut with me?
If you're ready to get where you want to go and you'd like to hop in my pink Cadillac to get there, DM and let's talk!
Like Mama Said...
I’ll take my inspiration where ever I can get it. Last week it was a Tony Robbins podcast interview with boxing legend Evander Holyfield—who, it turns out, is a beautiful, inspiring man.
The whole interview is packed with so many mic drop moments to learn and take away from, but one I especially love is when Tony asked him, “What makes a boxer a boxer who doesn’t make it?”
Evander: “He quit. He quit on himself.”
“Mama said, ‘Son, you never lose if you don’t quit. Give your best.’”
Ain’t that just the best advice.